“It’s a bird.” “It’s a plane.” It’s Superman…no…wait…that’s a woman?!??!
Our society has been hit by an epidemic…. The Superwoman complex. Women do it all. We bear children, care for those children, care for our homes and our men, and contribute financially to our family. Oh and we do all of that while maintaining our own selves (eating healthy, working out, looking presentable). These things have become the norm for women, it’s what expected. Even though doing all of those things are a lot and simply can be overwhelming, those things alone don’t make us superwomen.
The superwoman complex is when we do all of what’s “expected” and the things a man should be doing. That life looks like this: taking out the trash, fixing the broken things around the house, maintaining the car, tooting our own horn, giving ourselves affirmations and accolades- while being a mother, being a wife, working, and keeping ourselves up.
I’m not saying that women can’t do all of these things but we shouldn’t be. I was raised by a woman who did it all, by herself, because she had to. In those situations, we just have to do what we have to do. However, I am a firm believer in roles. In situations where roles apply – Men: Step up. Lend a helping hand. Give support where needed. Do the things you do best. Let your lady be a lady. Your efforts will be greatly appreciated. Ladies: Release control. Let your man be the man. Take a step back and allow yourself to be treated like a lady. I am definitely wearing the entire Superwoman costume right now, cape included, but I’m so ready to shed and share the load.
Ladies we can wear an “S” on our chest but it can mean much more than Superwoman (super supportive, sensational, sweet, sultry…just to name a few).
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I ttally agree with you. some of us don’t know how to take a step back and relinquish Control. I believe it has something to do with a generation of women being raised by women who had to do it all. We were taught by there actions that we must do it all and not to depend on anyone else to do it for us. It’s hard to re- teach yourself something that is so deeply embedded. it just seems easier to do it all yourself and complain (internally) that no one helps. I now realize this thought process is not conducive to a positive and healthy relationship. While I am not married, I am definitely learning the tools I need to get there.
Yes, it is totally embedded in us and very hard to do differently. I complain externally as much as I do internally and that has been the strain in my relationships. Good luck to us re-wiring ourselves! 🙂